I’ve mentioned that my parents were having problems and that my dad was kicked out. I didn’t go into the circumstances.
My mom got a restraining order against my dad. How she got it, I still don’t understand. He’s never hit her. Not once in the entire 33 years they were married. She told me that she had dreams that he was going to kill her. My mom is incredibly religious and tends to think of her dreams as prophetic visions from God. Seriously.
I’m not trying to make light of domestic violence or deny the stories of victims. I’m angry because this is one of those situations that takes away from real victims. I’m angry that my mother used religion as a weapon against my father. I’m angry that she didn’t give me even the slightest warning, then suddenly I’m getting a phone call from my father saying that he’s being escorted from the home he owns by 3 county sheriffs.
I’m not saying my dad was perfect or totally innocent. He’s shit at expressing himself. He gets angry. He’s said mean things to my mom and I’ve called him out. I can even understand why she’d be done with their marriage. But there are SO many reasons why I have a problem with the way she handled it.
I told my mom once that if they split, I’d be the only one he could go to. He’d have to live with me. She said, “Well, you don’t HAVE to take him in.” Oh yes I fucking do. What kind of daughter would allow her father to just live on the streets?
On top of everything, last week, she cut off his cell phone service. This weekend, I went with him to get him added on to my plan. It was really hard trying to explain the situation without explaining it. This is not really something you want to share with a total stranger. But there were questions…and the only answer I really wanted to give was “it’s complicated.”
And it was her birthday this weekend. Two days before her birthday, she cut him off. I was considering reaching out until…
I haven’t spoken to her since Dad moved in. Partly because I’m angry. Partly because the restraining order states that there is to be no 3rd-party contact, so I can’t really talk to her even if I wanted to.
I’ll start this off by saying: this is a good episode. Just a good, solid episode of television with fine performances by our regulars and guest star Terry O’Quinn (who most of you probably think of as Locke from Lost but I think of as Moira Kelly’s dad from The Cutting Edge). That said, THERE AIN’T NO CLOTHES IN THIS THING. So this’ll be a shortie.
However, this is the episode that opens with everyone’s favorite holiday, CAPTAIN PICARD DAY!
We don’t get much else for clothes, but we do get to see Rikes in his exercise clothes after a bat’leth incident.
I’m injured! AND SEXY
Your diagnosis is: perfectly furred chest
The dramatic reason for this scene is for Riker to say “I knew what I was supposed to do and didn’t do it.” THIS PARALLELS SOMETHING IN HIS PAST I THINK. But the real reason for this scene is for Rikes to walk around with an open bathrobe. Bev knows:
Help get people on the ground. There are activists and reporters who want to do their part and get to Ferguson. Donate and get them there. I am so far aware of Zellie Imani, Zak Jemmott, and JR Valrey (a reporter for SF Bay View).
Feed the children of Ferguson. Many children in America rely on school to get their meals and thanks to the civil unrest caused by the police, the children of Ferguson have been without school since Monday. These people want to make sure that doesn’t mean anyone is going hungry.
Keep awareness up. Not just among the like-minded people on tumblr, this is something everyone needs to be aware of.
Spread accurate information. There is a lot of distortion going on here and spreading every piece of information as it is reported only makes that worse. First and foremost make sure you are listening carefully, then share what is important and relevant.
If you are aware of any good causes or ways to help that I have missed, please reblog and add them.
The militarization of police in Ferguson, Missouri & across the country must be stopped. Please sign the petition today. (27589 signatures on petition)
I haven’t said much about this. I tend to avoid serious topics. It doesn’t mean I don’t care. The situation in Ferguson angers me. I don’t really know what to do. I guess this is me trying to do something, anything.